It’s All About Me… I Mean You

Alone time is so important, but I don’t think enough people realize that. Alone time is the perfect time to do anything you want without worrying the needs of others. That last part is so important. So let me say it louder for the people in the back.


You should already know how difficult it is to be YOU. Not only do you have bills to pay, a job to be done to satisfaction, coworkers, family, friends, and random stranger to deal with, they all have needs and wants that they expect you to consider at all times. To make matters worse, they all have an opinion to share about you and your decisions. It is mentally, physically, and emotionally draining to tend to the needs of others. And if you have half a mind after all your responsibilities, you may actually tend to yourself.

Since I’m not married and I don’t have any children, I’m in a special time in my life in which I can be as selfish with my alone time as I want. If I don’t have the energy in any of the three areas (mental, physical, or emotional), I don’t go anywhere. I have so much on my plate right now that alone time has been my main priority. It has to be. Even if other people dislike it. I mean, the more time I speak alone, the less time I spend with others. But that’s what I need until I’m ready to socialize to my fullest capacity.


If you’ve read any of my previous posts, you know that I like to say what’s

completely on my mind. Let’s Get It

Do not be afraid to spend as much time alone as you need. There are only some things that other people can help you get through. If you’re dealing with something like that, work on yourself first so you can be available to those around you. You still have to go to work, pay bills and take care of home, but at least let your significant other what you’re struggling with so you can work on your issues. Because if you don’t, I promise you, your issues will bleed out into your relationships, if it hasn’t already.

I don’t care if it’s 5 minutes or 5 months, take the time you need to get yourself together. OK yea, they’re going to be people who start feeling some type of way for becoming distant. It’s going to suck because it will feel like a lot of people don’t understand you or support you for your decision. And honestly, they might not. And you’re just going to have to keep going with your progress.

Would you rather continue living your life and feel like sh*t or take the risk of losing friendships for your sanity. Be honest with me, you may be reading this because you feel like you’re going insane too. It’s okay, we’re in this together. It’s the main reason the blog exists: to let people know that they’re not alone. I have bad days too. Well, it’s been a few consecutive days consistently. So I’ve taken it upon myself to have plenty alone time to see what’s going on within me. And I can tell you from experience, my life hasn’t stopped even though it has been more difficult. You can go out to eat, take an awesome bubble bath, complete home projects, etc.

Or not, it’s up to you. I just hate it when I see people not taking care of themselves or tending to their own needs. But if this is something you have done, what has your experience been like?

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  • Spending time getting to know yourself is so underrated. I think social media and self-help gurus, while both are beneficial to extremely important, can get us to lose sight of who we are and what our bodies need

  • Love love love this! I’ve been doing this for myself the last year or so when I realized individuals were sucking the life out of me. It’s been beautiful! I’m glad I’m not alone.

  • I agree with you 100%…We need some time to ourselves to unplug a little bit. It can be hard to do for those of us who are working online. But it’s something I definitely try to do. Turn my phone off and just read a book and not think about anything for a while. I love the way you write as well!

  • I don’t think we realize how important having “alone” time is. We have the radio in our cars, media on our phones, tv at home that we constantly are drowning out valuable self-reflection time without much effort. You’re right. Taking time out for yourself and reflecting on what is most important to you is absolutely important.

    • You’re so right! I noticed too late that I was experiencing sensory over-load. My life was rarely silent and calm. So I had to force myself into. At first, the silence was so uncomfortable. But then I began to love it!

  • I was nodding my head yes as I read this. For me, most of my friends are people who need to be with other people all the time or they get depressed. I’m the complete opposite in that if I don’t have enough alone time, I get that way! I think for a long time I thought that loving myself and taking time for myself was just selfish, but I learned the hard way that I have to take care of me first and then worry about others later. I applaud you for posting something like this as we all need to reminders to make sure we are practicing self care!

  • For me the ultimate price was being heartbroken – and the only person I had to blame for it was myself. After that, I really realized my worth. And I haven’t looked back since.

    • Taking time to reconnect as a couple is important too. The whole family started with you two and it has to continue with you two.

    • I’ve only traveled alone when I knew someone I know was already going to be there lol. But I’m hoping to go to Detroit in March on my own. It’ll be practice for trips abroad.

  • knowing your own worth and validating that in self care and maintenance is so important! I hate when people make others feel selfish just for trying to take care of themselves, in any sense. How can we show love without having a strong foundation to stand on?

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