Unfortunately, no one is able to control what happens to us completely. As a result, we can’t avoid experiencing unfortunate events that makes us feel sad or lonely. But we do have the power to choose how we respond to those events. Even though our power to do this is easier said than done.
The way we think about ourselves determines how we handle what happens to us. For instance, if we have a healthy dose of self-confidence and self-love, we know that we handled stressful situations to the best of our ability regardless of the outcome. We can leave the situation with a positive outlook on life.
The process is harder for those who don’t think as highly of themselves because they are more prone to harmful thoughts than helpful ones. Those harmful thoughts then create harmful moods which then lead to depression. But if you practice replacing harmful thoughts with helpful thoughts, then you can eventually be more confident in changing your mood when a negative event happens.
I know that I still struggle with this skill. I worked with my therapist to first realize the strength of my thoughts. Afterward, we discussed how to identify the harmful thoughts and the helpful thoughts that I have everyday by literally writing them down daily. The better I get at identifying the harmful thoughts, the better I’m getting at replacing them without having to always write them down.
I’m not an expert or anything at this skill, but I know it’s helped me thus far. I still have a long ways to go before I feel completely confident in dealing with depression. But I still wanted to share some common harmful thoughts and a few replacement helpful thoughts. Someone helped me find mine and I wanted to spread the knowledge.
If you find any of these useful, let me know in the comments below.